"Sometimes people walk away from love because it is so beautiful that it terrifies them. Sometimes they leave because the connection shines a bright light on their dark places and they are not ready to work them through. Sometimes they run away because they are not developmentally prepared to merge with another-they have more individuation work to do first. Sometimes they take off because love is not a priority in their lives-they have another path and purpose to walk first. Sometimes they end it because they prefer a relationship that is more practical than conscious, one that does not threaten the ways that they organize reality. Because so many of us carry shame, we have a tendency to personalize love's leavings, triggered by the rejection and feelings of abandonment. But this is not always true. Sometimes it has nothing to do with us. Sometimes the one who leave is just not ready to hold it safe. Sometimes they know something we don't -they know their limits at that moment in time. Real love is no easy path: Readiness is everything. May we grieve loss without personalizing it. May we learn to love ourselves in the absence of the lover." ~ from the book Uncommon Bond by Jeff Brown
If real Love is your path, then prepare yourSELF. Open your heart w i d e...& work through your stuff...anything that makes you want to close it. Love YOU!!! ...& then when real Love comes, you will know it & you'll be ready...ready to cherish it, keep it safe, & explore all its wonders.
~ Christi Rafferty